I'm About to Have My Own Baby. Can I Judge You Now?
Over the next couple months, I'm going to be talking with you about some topics that most parents will find...."controversial" (which is word I wish I had a better word for). I'm going to be broaching subjects like my intended home birth, why I won't be using pacifiers, and (gasp!) my intention to co-sleep. I want the Love of a Little One community to be a positive one but I'm also not going to shy away from things that I believe in and when I write about a topic, I REALLY believe in that topic. I want to give you information, my opinion, and lots and lots of support.
Over my 15 years of being a nanny, I've encountered one sentence that literally makes me want to punch people in the throat; "You're not a parent, you wouldn't understand." I have worked in dozens and dozens of households. I have worked one on one with even more children. I have dealt with growing bodies and growing minds from newborn to teens. I can change a poop filled diaper gently and effectively in less than 12 seconds. (Ok, that last one was just a fun little tidbit). I don't do many things in my life more confidently or more often than parent. I know how to unbiasedly give a child routine, discipline, and most of all, love. I KNOW how to parent and I DO understand. I'm also REALLY good at it. On top of experience as a nanny for 15 years, I'm a DONA trained Postpartum Doula, I've done copious amounts of research revolving around childcare, and I've had to turn down more full time job offers than I can count. On referrals alone, I could work 12 hour days, 7 days a week. I'm often turned to for advice, information, and random bits of knowledge. I feel like that alone speaks volumes about how well I parent.
Yes, I get to do the fun stuff like holiday countdowns but I also get to do the not so fun stuff like potty training!
I once had a close friend tell me that when I'm a mom, I'll absolutely change my mind and give in to using pacifiers, that I just didn't get it now because I didn't personally have any children. Well, I'm 3 months away from giving birth and guess what? I'm still not planning to use any pacifiers. Why? Because I've seen the feeding issues they've caused in newborns, I've seen the speech issues they've caused in toddlers, and I've seen the separation issues they've caused in both children and parents. Yes, I don't like pacifiers because I personally think that they're hideous hanging out of a child's mouth. BUT I've also got facts, numerous studies, and years of seeing their effects to back up my feelings.
My point here is that over the next couple months when I post about a topic I believe in, I won't be judging you like some parents have judged me. I will give my opinion and then I'll give you lots and lots of facts with research and links to back it up. If you don't want to follow my advice or don't see eye to eye with what we're talking about, that's ok but at least you'll be informed. Parenting doesn't come with a manual but there are so many resources one can turn to so that they can create their own manual. I hope to help you become a great parent or nanny or childcare provider. No biological children necessary.